One of my girlfriends just sent me this article. "The Number One Thing to Look for in a Partner" from Oprah.com. It's composed of 7 articles that say what characteristics and traits you should really look for in a guy. I know that you can find these articles anywhere, like on a Yahoo homepage or gossip magazine, but this one was just different. It was insightful and deep. I find most of it true and useful! Especially the first article. Know what to look for in a person and what is most important. In the end, your happiness and feeling safe is on top.
Little experts from the article:
1) The psychology of evil which included "The Psychopath Checklist." Criminal psychiatrists use this helpful list use to test the potential of someone being a hardcore psychopath, capable of committing repeated evil and violent crimes.
Guess which traits psychopaths share?
* Glibness
* Extreme charisma
* Need to always be doing something
* Feelings of high self-worth
* Pathological lying
* Proneness to boredom
* Emotional unavailability
2) Do you really prefer to place a higher value on a guy's superficial aspects (his sexiness, funniness, smartness, wealthiness) more than you value his character? His Soul?
If so, then there is a big danger you will wind up involved with a guy who's rude, angry, dishonest, disloyal, hurtful, non-communicative, unempathic and selfish! As a result, all of his inner bad qualities will make you feel unhappy, insecure, unsafe, frazzled, neurotic and totally crazy!
3) Reminder Time: The number one reason to spend time with a guy is that he makes you feel happier and he is improving your life. Not making you more unhappy, insecure, unsafe, or just plain frazzled!
Another way to explain all this is to make the following confession…
True love is a that—not a him
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